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Post by Dr Johnny Fever on Apr 12, 2018 12:44:59 GMT
So why are posts being closed for no real reason?....because someone has a bit of a hissy fit...there was nothing said on that post to hurt anyone, if anything it was the other way round..help and support...and the odd question was asked...but she has a bit of a meltdown and the post gets closed...this isn't the first time this has happened and I for one don't like the way this board is going or being run...it's not the same as the old board...and having spent over 15 years on the old boards...they were updated two or three times...I'm really thinking of calling it a day...
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Post by latitude on Apr 12, 2018 13:10:45 GMT
I think it's more to do with her going on and on about Elton's d**k. That's pretty crude talk for a board like this. And, if she came back she could well get into all that again, and I'm sure it's pretty offensive to some people. And how many of the posters have posted on that thread since she said all that? Only you and me. And I had to tell her that that subject is of no interest to me, or most others here, but she still went on about it. So, I think that's why Bite closed the board.
For goodness sakes---don't leave. It'll all be ok now. I enjoy your posts, and you would be sorely missed.
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Post by BiteUrLip on Apr 12, 2018 20:45:56 GMT
Nothing serious going here, I just wanted to stop the possible confrontation between you two and Brianna. But now it seems she wants to stay off, like she wrote to me. It's up to her whether to return or not furthermore. But from now on, the board continues normally.
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Post by latitude on Apr 12, 2018 21:10:30 GMT
What I wish is that I'd never got into all this in the first place. What was I thinking??!! I was trying to be nice to her, but things kind of went haywire. I've got to watch what I'm getting into from now on and be a little more careful. The best thing for me is just to stick with the music forum, and not get involved in complicated matters this. What I *should* have done is what other posters did and stopped posting when things got weird. Really glad you closed the thread.Thank you! (Also, for some of us, it was getting a bit too dirty. Ignoring and not replying back is the best way to deal with things like that. And silly me chose not to do that. )
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Post by Dr Johnny Fever on Apr 12, 2018 22:45:56 GMT
Nothing serious going here, I just wanted to stop the possible confrontation between you two and Brianna. But now it seems she wants to stay off, like she wrote to me. It's up to her whether to return or not furthermore. But from now on, the board continues normally. Confrontation?...what confrontation...(do find this a bit insulting) myself and latitude only offered help and love...she's the one that has thrown a hissy fit..(which didn't bother me, been there, done that myself, so no big deal, will calm down) and this is the second time a post has been closed (imo) for no real reason...I feel this place is turning into a bit of a nanny state and it seems to be pampering to one person...I feel (again only imo) that you have pushed latitude into a corner, as now if Brianna does come back, latitude won't post on her posts (that's the way I read her post above) not at all happy with your reply, bite as it seems to make out that myself and latitude are to blame for everything that happened..we're not...I'll come back on for the next couple of days, too read any replies to my post..after that, I'll be taking a break.."the board can continue normally" without my input.
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Post by latitude on Apr 13, 2018 0:00:22 GMT
Nothing serious going here, I just wanted to stop the possible confrontation between you two and Brianna. But now it seems she wants to stay off, like she wrote to me. It's up to her whether to return or not furthermore. But from now on, the board continues normally. Confrontation?...what confrontation...(do find this a bit insulting) myself and latitude only offered help and love...she's the one that has thrown a hissy fit..(which didn't bother me, been there, done that myself, so no big deal, will calm down) and this is the second time a post has been closed (imo) for no real reason...I feel this place is turning into a bit of a nanny state and it seems to be pampering to one person...I feel (again only imo) that you have pushed latitude into a corner, as now if Brianna does come back, latitude won't post on her posts (that's the way I read her post above) not at all happy with your reply, bite as it seems to make out that myself and latitude are to blame for everything that happened..we're not...I'll come back on for the next couple of days, too read any replies to my post..after that, I'll be taking a break.."the board can continue normally" without my input. Well, you are kinda right there, Dr john. Brianna was overreacting and being super dramatic about things we said, when no harm was meant from us. She's waaaay too touchy for me. I hardly dare respond to her posts. Doubt if she'll be back this time anyway, but that's ok with me. Yeesh, I got myself into trouble I never could have predicted. It's difficult to deal with *extreme* moods like hers. (I'm aware she has a mental illness, but it's still not easy to deal with such things on an Elton John message board). If there was ever going to be a confrontation it would be because she was having a meltdown and overreacting, getting angry with us about nothing. What to do? Get out while the gettin' is good. Had some good talks with you anyway, Dr john.
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Post by newloneranger on Apr 13, 2018 4:51:25 GMT
I think we should add a area to the board called Enter at your own risk(or something to that effect), An anything goes type of area. If you want to post you can, If you don't then don't enter, you've been warned type of thing. And if someone posts something inappropriate we can move it to that area and they can continue their discussion there and leave the rest of the board alone. I don't like to delete threads or posts, or close them. It just causes friction on the board. We've allready have two people on the board who are thinking of leaving. And I don't want anyone to leave. We all have been friends for a long time here and on the old board. If we continue to close threads this place could turn into a ghost town. And I say that from expierience of being a administrator of another board(Gerry Rafferty) for several years.
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Post by latitude on Apr 13, 2018 11:10:13 GMT
I think we should add a area to the board called Enter at your own risk(or something to that effect), An anything goes type of area. If you want to post you can, If you don't then don't enter, you've been warned type of thing. And if someone posts something inappropriate we can move it to that area and they can continue their discussion there and leave the rest of the board alone. I don't like to delete threads or posts, or close them. It just causes friction on the board. We've allready have two people on the board who are thinking of leaving. And I don't want anyone to leave. We all have been friends for a long time here and on the old board. If we continue to close threads this place could turn into a ghost town. And I say that from expierience of being a administrator of another board(Gerry Rafferty) for several years. That seems like a very good idea, NLR. Never thought of doing anything like that. I think you should do it.
As for leaving the board---I thought about it, but why let all this nonsense push me off the board. I myself just have to be a little more careful, and stick with the music part of this board (and heed any warning forums that may be created ), and keep on keeping on. Btw, I hope Dr john will do that too. I've been on the board for over 12 years, and, for the most part, really enjoyed my friends here. I can't leave ya now, and besides there's only a few of us left.
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Post by latitude on Apr 13, 2018 12:12:56 GMT
Actually something else occurred to me, NLR, about that 'warning forum'. I was thinking---seeings Brianna isn't going to post here again, how many other posters here would even have objectionable posts? I can't think of anyone, other then her, who would even be using it, so I'm not sure it would be worth it to create. Just a thought. IF she came back you could have something like that and she could use it to her hearts content, but I don't think she'll be back. On the other hand, would you want to create an entire forum for just one person if she DID come back?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2018 16:47:51 GMT
Wow. So you're saying that everybody else here is normal and can play by the rules and post accordingly, but since I can't, because I'm mental, that I have to have a separate section to post to isolate me and further let others know that I have problems? Just going to pick me out of the bunch like that and pull me apart further when I already don't have a will to live? You're just going to allow this board to be the way YOU few like it, and push out the rest because they don't fit YOUR standards, huh? I see what kind of a cruel world this can be now having people who don't understand you bring you down. By saying that I personally need a section to allow my "crazy, off the wall emotional" posts because they aren't "appropriate" in other sections is essentially saying that I am not functional in society. That I am destined to be an outcast because of a fucking 'mental disorder' I was born with. That I am not capable of playing by the rules (which I don't see any posted here). I see who are me true friends here and who are not- the people who would bring me down in the end instead of try to understand me... and honestly, I wrote a VERY long message to BiteUrLip saying how I apologize for my behavior, but now I take that back. It isn't my fault that people don't like me and I have to move on from here. The reputation of this board will keep going doooown, down and down in you guys keep deciding to monitor your members so harshly. All I simply asked was a section to post about his physically appearance, but because you guys all thought it was a silly idea, it was completely shot down. Didn't even get it a chance... it's not like it costs any money to do it, y'know. Instead, you guys are all up for the idea to create a section where the mental outcasts like me can posts, just to single us out and further keep us reminded that the reason why we post in this section is because our posts are too insane and inappropriate to belong on the rest of the board. A better idea for you guys is to only allow members that you approve of to join the board, because I would simply not fit your "criteria" and I couldn't join in the first place. And at this point, with only like a couple of active members, why not just shut the whole board down anyways and just start your own facebook group chat... Anyway, as for me being too emotional and sensitive on this board, just keep in mind that I was in a psychiatric ward and several hospitals and clinics for the past 2 months, and I got a letter from the man I love so deeply as he knows now what I've gone through. I've had a LOT of panic attacks. A LOT of new medications. A LOT of side effects. A LOT of mishaps. A LOT of crying spells. So YES, I AM going to be emotional and if YOU can't handle just a normal human reaction to stress, then maybe it's time you evaluate yourself and see what is emotional to you... because I'm sure as hell if you saw the hospital I was in, you would be bawling in tears and never want to live and see another day again. All it takes is a little love and understanding... and when I do have moments where I get randomly angry (and I do still apologize for), if doesn't mean that I don't have any worth anymore. As I said earlier, I already don't have a will to live. Whether or not I created this situation in the first place, the way it was handled could've been so much differently. It's given me several panic attacks. And I'm not sure if I really want to h ave another because I will surely kill myself. So I'm going to leave right now, and after this message I am voluntarily deleting my account to show you guys that I'm actually capable of self-control and I can remove myself from a situation is I choose to do so. But at least you have some insight now on what it's like to be bipolar (and possibly borderline) so that in the future, when someone with a mental illness joins this board, they won't have to go through what I did. And this is bittersweet, but I still thank each one of you for the decent times I did have here on this board, but now I realize not everyone will understand and that's when I have to move on. Now that I'm gone, you will feel relief on the board since you won't have to worry about me lashing back on you guys, I'll just isolate myself like I normally did because, well, I was always a stresser in people's lives. Hope it's making you all cry as much as it's making me right now, since I am not missed, loved, or treated fairly and it's just not on this board, it's in general, I've been told to go kill myself many times, I ruin my life because I'm mean to others and it's a vicious cycle I can't break free from... I treat others like shit when I don't mean it... all the time... I'm impulsive when I swear I have total control... And all I did was join this board thinking I was going to post about my dream love and favorite man Elton John when instead somehow everything got fucked and I'm back to ground zero ready to die again. So much for the hospital visits. Look what I do to myself each day... if you think it's intense here on this board, imagine watching me have a panic attack and the only thing that stops one is my letter from Elton. I have the tendency to ramble so I will end this here, and I do not wish to look back on this forum ever again. But this is a public board... so remember all the loonies you'll get like me. Take that facebook group chat into consideration. There's a lot of other ways adults can handle this situation, such as removing yourself. And with that...
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Post by latitude on Apr 13, 2018 18:17:41 GMT
Ok, guys, I just skimmed the post from Brianna above. (Simply too long. Gave me a headache). But I did get the part where she said she was deleting her account. Here's what she said, in case nobody wants to read that whole thing hunting for it---"So I'm going to leave right now, and after this message I am voluntarily deleting my account...". I checked and she did. Her choice. Therefore we probably need to move on from all this, put it behind us and get on with other subjects. Just a suggestion.
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Post by newloneranger on Apr 13, 2018 18:39:47 GMT
My suggestion was not aimed at anyone. I'm just going from experience of being an administrator of a message board. I was the administrator of a Gerry Rafferty message board for a good 7 to 10 years. And when I first started that board I deleted some posts that seemed inappropriate to me. And what surprised me was that other members who were not even a part of the inappropriate posts got angry with me for deleting the posts. And some of them left the board. And I can see their point of view. It is free speech even though it was inappropriate so I set up an area like I'm suggesting here. And it seemed to work out ok. The board was active for a long time. And that area wasn't used that much but it was there. As an administrator you get complaints sometimes so if I get a complaint about an inappropriate post I can just move it rather than delete it and they can carry on with their discussion. Briannas post about Eltons manhood did not offend me at all but it may offend someone else. I just don't want to go through that same experience I had before. You see Dr.John angry about it, That proves my point.
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Post by Dr Johnny Fever on Apr 13, 2018 18:43:44 GMT
you know what...I really don't know what to do or say about Brianna's post...maybe if I shout..."HELLO, YOUR NOT THE ONLY FUCKING ONE, IM ALSO BIPOLAR " anything your going though..I've done so and a lot worse...anything you've done hasn't even scratched the surface..believe me..your not the only one that's been to hospital, your not the only one that feels unlove, worthless etc....gone off and planned how your going to kill your self yet?...all well and good apologising to Bite, what about the rest of us?...your all "me, me, me" and don't seem to read what people are saying and if you do...it doesn't seem to sink in...and you just pick bits, that you seem to zoom in on...and go off on one...so you have mental health issues..."GUESS WHAT, ME TOO"...and you've only had it for 18 years...and only been diagnosed a few months...woppy-do...I've been diagnosed and lived with it longer than you've been born...and wasn't diagnosed till I was 38...so had the pleasure of going through my teenage years with it...getting into fights, because someone says something about nothing, that pissed me off...you'll probably never read this and if you do will still think everyone is against you...well guess what, that's life..not everyone will like you, not because your mentality ill, just won't...not everyone likes everyone else...the world just doesn't work like that...it won't matter what anyone says, it'll still be wrong as far as Brianna is concerned..
I now wait for this post to be closed..go ahead, Make my day..
just reading the the post above, wasn't there when I first posted my reply....what am I supposed to be angry about?
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Post by newloneranger on Apr 13, 2018 18:47:45 GMT
I'm not closing anything
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Post by Dr Johnny Fever on Apr 13, 2018 18:58:26 GMT
Umm, Bite hasn't been on yet...give it time, you also didn't answer my question..
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